Name: Elizabeth Davis
Age: 39 (although I’m already rounding up to 40 )
Country of Origin: USA
Favorite Quote: “The arc of history is long, but it bends toward justice.” -Martin Luther King, Jr
How did you hear about Über Moms? The unofficial Expat mommy network. I heard Laura and Jordan talking about Über Moms at Gymboree and started asking questions.
What’s your favorite thing about being an Über Mom? The community of women so committed to helping each other make healthy choices. Über Moms are in this group to give support and get the support we need.
What is something that people don’t know about you, but you’d like them to know? I’m actually an introvert. No one ever believes me when I tell them that.
What do you do when you want to jumpstart a health kick? Make a plan and tell people about it. Then I’m accountable! An Über Moms Challenge is also a great kick start – challengers stick with me and help me stick to my goals.
What is your food cuddle? Good bread with salted butter. It’s the simple things!
If there were a reality TV show about your life, what would it be called? Crazy Real
When shit hits the fan, what do you do? Curl into a ball and cry. No, really. Then when the feelings are out, I can start dealing.
What’s your exercise vice? Push-ups. They hate me.
What is an ideal Saturday with the family? Um…. You mean without the family? I’m usually ready for a break on Saturdays after being home all week. But one family favorite is going to the pool. Both my kids love swimming, and my husband and I can take turns going for our own swim. I am excited to start family Yoga with my four year old in November.
As a mom, do you ever lose your shit, I mean literally, how do you stay organized? All the time. I’m used to being super capable and in control of my work environment, but I can’t control other human beings, even if they are my own children. Staying organized
Step 1: I started anti-depressants. In all seriousness, I finally realized that I wasn’t managing my emotions well and I needed extra help. Taking anti-depressants means that I can handle my emotions in a healthy way so I can go into The Crazy stronger and more able to handle toddler tantrums and picky eating and everything else without totally losing it.
Step 2: I’m not afraid to cancel, reschedule our just say no to plans if my kids – or I – are in a terrible mood. I try to plan our activities carefully so they are good for my boys but also good for me. There are some things we just can’t do because they would make my kids too wild and that would make me too crazy.
Besides being a mom, what is your superpower? Seeing the trees without losing sight of the forest. It’s easy to forget the big picture when you’re in the weeds or forget the details when you’re dreaming big. I’m good at keeping both in sight.
How do you hope to see the role of motherhood change in the future? Comparison is the thief of joy. And there’s rarely only one way of doing something well. I’d like to see motherhood be a place where we support each other. Where we don’t let our mama friends compare themselves or their kids unfavorably to others. And I’d love to see a motherhood culture where we encourage each other to make the best choices for our families – even if it’s different from what another mom would do. No more judgment. Helping, teaching, encouraging, uplifting. Motherhood is hard, even if you have an ‘easy’ kid. Let’s help each other succeed.
How many languages do you speak? 3 and smatterings of others.
If not here, where would you be? I’m not sure. I invest in where I am. Right now my heart is in Munich, but there may be some changes for our family next year.
What would be the chapters of your book of life? I think the title would be Stages of Discovery. The chapters would look at how I learned to think and view the world and how my views have matured over time.
What chapters are missing in the nonexistent manual to being a mom? How to tell interfering strangers to shut up. Or, more practically, how to tell them to step in and help instead of complaining about your kids /your parenting.
What will your mom legacy be? Helping moms know their value and contribution to their families and society. We are raising future adults. What we’re doing now with our kids will shape the type of person they grow up to be. That’s important work. That’s valuable work.
Name five things you can always find in your pantry? Pasta, nuts and dried fruit, canned tuna, kid snacks, and – to be honest! – chocolate.
Take out or cook in? Cook in. But only because my husband is a genius.